If you are a parent, from what generation do you come from? Do you ever feel like the modern world is being driven by selfies, constant validation, and a touch of self-centeredness? Well, you’re not alone in that thought. There has never been a time in history when narcissism was given this platform and avenue in social media. No wonder there is such excessive focus on “me, myself, and I”–the basis of narcissism. Dr. Ramani Durvasula, an American clinical psychologist and retired professor of psychology, has the inside scoop on what makes narcissism tick. She’s helping parents like us to navigate the tricky path of raising kids who are not caught up in the self-centeredness whirlwind in this digital age.
Understanding Narcissism
So, what is narcissism all about? It’s more than just a love affair with mirrors. It’s a personality trait where people only ever think about themselves. Narcissists crave admiration and lack empathy. And guess what? This is not just a trend or a personal quirk. Narcissism is shaping our society, influencing how we interact, and affecting our family — most of the time, not for the better.
Effects of Narcissistic Personality Disorder on Society and Victims
Picture this: a world where social media reigns supreme. Everyone is chasing perfection and the pressure to keep up is on. This kind of environment is breeding stress, anxiety, and a messed-up sense of self-worth.
Meanwhile, victims of narcissistic behavior are dealing with emotional abuse, manipulation, and a toll on their mental health. Dr. Durvasula is digging deep into the roots of narcissism, and as parents, it’s time to equip ourselves to protect our kids from these challenges and even keep them from becoming a narcissist.
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) in the Modern World
Social media is a playground, but it’s also a pressure cooker. Kids face new challenges, and parents need to balance achievements with parental guidance and constant communication.
Attachment Styles and the Impact of Technology
Gadgets and social media are changing how kids connect. Parents should be present for their kids, giving them a safe space to lean on emotionally. That is why being together during meal times without the presence of gadgets is very crucial. This is an important bonding time that should not be taken for granted.
Temperament and the Influence of Social Media
Everyone’s life looks perfect if our criteria is what they post on social media. But that constant exposure to a picture-perfect life might mess with a child’s confidence. Parents should guide the kids through the virtual maze while boosting their self-esteem. But first, it is also very important for parents to realize that social media posts do not tell the whole story about a person’s life. It is also best to remember that parents should not make judgmental comments about other people based on social media posts. This can affect the child’s ability to properly perceive other people.
Modeling Behavior in the Age of Influencers
Influencers set the trend, but parents should set a real example about propriety. Teach your kids empathy and kindness in a world that sometimes values likes or hearts more than genuine connections.
Unconditional Love in the Digital Era
Online judgments can hurt because people do not seem to think before posting hateful comments to sometimes benign posts. Kids need to know that their worth isn’t tied to a virtual persona. If you can, it is best to keep children away from social media until they are old enough to understand and make informed choices. Do prepare them before letting them scroll freely on social media posts.
Parental Overinvolvement and Shielding from Disappointment
Shielding kids from every setback won’t help them grow emotionally. Let them face the bumps of life, learn, and bounce back stronger.
Guarding Against Enabling Behaviors
Instant gratification is everywhere. We have so many instant food products as well as instant results from our online games. But it’s not doing us favors in the long run. Parents should set boundaries, teach delayed gratification, and watch resilience bloom among their kids.
Balancing External Focus with Intrinsic Values
Academic achievements do matter. But parents should not forget to instill good moral values. Help your kids see their worth beyond the trophies and accomplishments.
The Impact on Mental Health
Dr. Durvasula has seen how narcissism is often linked to depression and anxiety. With this knowledge, parents can navigate their family life more effectively by finding ways to create safe havens for their kids’ mental well-being.
Can Narcissism Be Prevented?
In a world that’s spinning faster than ever, parents are the anchors of the family and home. Dr. Durvasula’s toolkit is our guide in steering through the maze of modern challenges.
Prioritize emotional well-being, shower your kids with unconditional love, and watch them grow into resilient individuals with empathy.
At home, encourage empathy, teach humility, avoid over-praising, set boundaries, and model kindness and empathy. These are all very important strategies that parents can use to help prevent narcissism in their children.
Together, let’s raise a generation that shines bright in a world that sometimes forgets to look beyond itself.
And Social psychologists report a steady increase in narcissism measures among college students. One reason for increasing self-esteem may be grade inflation in schools. Adolescent loneliness increases with the amount of time that they spend online.
Thank you for this , I have a teenager na kaya sa totoo lng ang hirap minsan sa knya ipaintindi ang mga bagay bagay na alam natin na makakasama sa kanila. Kaya lagi ko siya kinakamusta regarding sa school and friends niya ,kung may naeencounter ba na prob sa school like bullying ,. Goodthing na wala naman po, Lagi ko sinasabi na magset ng bounderies if ever. At wag matakot magsabi sa amin ng prob kung meron man.
Worth time to read, Thanks for sharing this po! 🥰 Yes, daming naglalabasang narcs ngayon. Ma notice mo talaga sa feed nila.
Sa mundong makabago po talaga ngayon , kailangan natin talaga Silang gabayan ,payuhan na may heart to heart talking po.. Turuan din po natin Silang maging mabuting tao at maging humble po…
Nasa atin naman talaga Ang tamang pagtuturo, pag gabay at disiplina sa mga bata kahit nasa modern technology era na Tayo.
Ang pagtuturo talaga ng magandang asal nasa atin at pag ganan sa mga Bata para lumaki Sila mabait marunong gumalang at my takot sa diyos..dahil kung anu naturo at naiwan natin sa kanila maganda asal Dala Dala nila Yan sa pag tanda kea lagi ko binibilin sa anak ko n anak gumalang sa matatanda at magpagkabait wag makipag away..kung away in ka Lalo n nkapasok k sa school magsumbong k lang sa teacher..
Naniniwala talaga ako na ang magandang asal ay nagsisimula sa tahanan. Kung tayong mga magulang ay palalakihin sila nang nasa tama at may malawak na pag-unawa sa sarili at sa ibang tao, lalaki silang mabuti. We can prevent narcissism if we, parents will set boundaries and limitation especially for using social media platforms. I think social medias play a big role din kung san nila nakukuha yung ibang attitude and traits. Minsan kasi kung ano nakikita nila sa social media akala nila ay laging tama. Kaya for me, hangga’t maari alalay at bantay talaga ang kids pag gagamit ng gadgets. Ipaliwanag na hindi lahat ng nakikita nila sa social media ay tama. And I agree with you Mommy Sig na, in this modern era “Parental guidance and constant communication” with kids is a must! Another worth to read blog post. Thanks for sharing!
We are here in a Millennial Way of Parenting.As A parent and dami kong Learnings sa Content na ito Ma.
Yes to preventing Narcissism to our Child its our Goal to protect them from any Harm and support them to face the reality of the world
In this modern world, our proper guidance and advice to our children are very important. Napakalaki Ng influence Ng environment sa kanila kaya dapat sa tahanan palang, naitatama na Ang kanilang behavior.