We always find our family eating in Bacolod restaurants or eating out whenever we travel. Our work gets us invited to events and a lot of times, we have to bring the kids because we don’t have a babysitter. In order to have a pleasant meal, we really need to teach them basic restaurant manners. Moreover, that means that the kids don’t bother other diners.
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Whenever we eat out, it can be a struggle for us to get the kids to stay still. But thankfully, it’s not because the girls lack the basic restaurant manners for kids. It’s usually just that they easily get bored.
Since we do not allow them to be distracted by gadgets, we have to keep them occupied.
Basic Restaurant Manners for Kids
We have seen many young kids getting unruly in restaurants. Meanwhile, we see neat children eating but it’s because their babysitters are feeding them. Or, the more common scene is that kids are very quiet because they are focused on their gadgets.
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At the age of 5, the children have already developed some fine motor skills. By this time, they can normally able to handle their utensils. So that means, we can effectively teach them (or even earlier).
We can teach them to eat by themselves so that we can also enjoy our family meals outside the home. Then, we can solve their boredom with activities after they are done eating. hehe
This is just a temporary phase and they will grow out of it. They won’t be perfect– Shane certainly isn’t. But it’s no excuse to trouble others with our kids’ antics when we can help it just by teaching them.
Sometimes, embarrassing situations are unavoidable. However, sometimes, it’s also lack of parental concern or involvement.
Fine Dining Activity
In relation to this, Bright Kids Preschool held a fine dining activity for their students. It wasn’t really “fine” dining, but more like teaching them basic restaurant manners for kids.
The event was held at the GT Hotel here in Bacolod and was participated in by the Kinder classes.
Teacher Sheryll Ong, directress of Bright Kids Preschool, led the activity. She taught the kids how to behave and what to do when dining in restaurants.
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The kids were told about the basic items on the table and how to use them–from the napkin to the utensils. They were also taught how to pour water from the pitcher.
The Food for the Kids
They were served with plated dishes from soup to fried chicken, spaghetti, burger steak, and rice.
For dessert, they had a mini cupcake. Don’t complain about the nutritional value of foods–these were chosen based on what is commonly liked by the kids. Otherwise, it would have been hard to feed them and the activity would be wasted.
It was nice to see the kids eating by themselves. Oh well, they needed some guidance from the teachers with the handling of the knife. They are still in kinder school after all.
But otherwise, they were quite fine dining by themselves.
Exposure Activity
Learning and exposure activities like these are very nice because these are designed to help the children in real-world situations. Basic restaurant manners are basic life skills.
Of course, it entails additional fees, but these are only minimal compared to the kids’ learnings. Not only was it fun for the kids to go out with their classmates, but it’s also teaching them much-needed life skills.
Because I had to cover the event for this mommy blog, I had the opportunity to witness the kids. The teachers were able to settle them down systematically and orderly (but nicely) on their seats. They were noisy at first, but they quieted down and the lecture soon started. Some of the things that were taught to them were how to sit properly and the correct posture.
Teacher Sheryll showed them all the stuff in front of them, how they are used, and then they started eating away. They were also taught the polite way of ending the meal.
Top 10 Basic Restaurant Manners for Kids
Here are some top 10 restaurant manners for kids. However, I think that a lot of grown ups can also learn from these.
- Sit properly on your chair and observe correct posture. Place your napkin on your lap.
- Turn off or keep your mobile phone/gadget.
- Wait for everyone to be served before eating.
- Use a knife and fork to cut meat.
- Cut your food one piece at a time.
- Chew your food with your mouth closed and without making noise.
- Don’t reach across the table. Politely ask somebody to pass what you need.
- Don’t talk when your mouth is full.
- Don’t pick your teeth at the table.
- Say “excuse me” when leaving the table.
Formal Dining Table Setup
In a fine dining setup, you will be face to face with a lot of silverware and china in front of you.
For most of us who live a fast-paced life, we no longer have time for such niceties.
However, we will encounter these during formal gatherings, so it is best to be familiar with these and know how to use them.
If you are really in doubt on what to do, don’t rush into eating (even if your tummy is already making weird noises). Instead, wait until everybody is seated and settled.
Inconspicuously observe what others are doing. You will not make a mistake if you will take things slowly and carefully. Rushing will just make you nervous all the more and get you into embarrassing situations.
Since we are on the homeschooling path, we are keen on teaching kids life skills. We like these kinds of activities very much. 🙂
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oh wow….super cute kids…oh wow…nice school to have these in their curriculum…
start them young !
This is really nice. I am a bit skeptical about the method of enforcing it on the kids. If the kid feels comfortable to use his/her hands they should go for that. I remember my cousins kid starting a tantrum when he was asked to use the spoon to have the meal at a restaurant. But all this being said its a good habit to inculcate at a young age.
That’s a good point you raised there, Nathan. But it is not like enforcing these rules to the kids or punishing them when they make a mistake. But yes, they are kids and they need the guidance of parents, which is the reason why we are here. hehe So we try. We may not be perfect but it’s not because of lack of trying. 😀
Its really important to teach kinds about basic table manners at an early age when they are young and can grasp easily. More schools should have this in course.
We used to do the same thing when I was teaching in Indonesia. We would bring the kids in a hotel and teach them basic table manners. I hope that this continues on because most kids seem to be losing the basic table manners and are becoming more engaged in their gadgets.
I know right? How could kids learn manners and interaction when they are glued to their gadgets?
I have made it a point to teach my children how to act in public. Not just by doing activities like this, but by teaching them regular manners in every day life.
Oh thank you for another concerned parent. What irks me as a mom is other parents who seem to be oblivious even when their kids are already disturbing others. 🙁
You are sharing a very valuable points here, and i think parents must learn these. It isn’t an excuse that kids do unpleasant behavior coz they are just kids – it is the parents’ responsibility to teach and mold them the right way.
This is a really helpful article indeed. Teaching kids basic table manners from an early age is really beneficial and just good parenting in my opinion.
What a great article! You’re absolutely right – manners must be taught from an early age. There’s nothing more miserable than going to a restaurant with unruly/obnoxious kids. No matter how good they are, we still leave by 8pm!
Knowing these manners are so important! I feel like I learned half of these from my family and the other half from watching movies and TV.
Wow this is such an amazing activity for kids to learn proper etiquettes. More schools need to be developing similar programs. Would definitely help give them more guidance when they’re out at restaurants.
Teaching kids about the manners of eating are much needed. Study is important but these types of learning activities are also important for kids. If kids learn these basic manners at the very early stage, they remember them throughout their life. Great post.
Teaching these kids these simple manners is so very important. They can learn from this as they would for other situations as well of how to act in a crowd.
This post should be read by ALL Italian parents, since in my opinion good manners at table are quite unknown by local kids. By the way most of times the problem are the parents: you can’t ask a little boy/girl to stay still like an adult while true adults are talking about politics, car insurances and bills to pay! In order to make them be good you have to involve them in the conversation.
Interesting article. May I suggest that maybe the source of the problem is that at home we let them do what they when it’s diner time? I mean, let’s be honest. If they respect the diner time with some rules why they would not respect them in a restaurant?
I agree. A lot of these good manners can already be taught at home.
We have definitely taught the kids some basic restaurant manners. No one wants to be that family that is out that everyone is staring at wondering where their home training is LOL
hahaha I totally agree. 🙂
I am so happy to come across your article. Our kids needs to know the basic restaurant manners !
Love this. I really think that teaching kids about basic restaurant manners at the early age is a must. It will also help them to be more well-mannered person.